Gathering and the Importance of the Family Meeting

The holiday season is a time for gathering with family, feasting on delicious meals, and expressing gratitude for our blessings. Yet, beyond the turkey and cranberry sauce lies an opportunity often overlooked—using this rare family gathering to hold meaningful conversations about the future, including the often sensitive topic of estate planning.

Estate planning is the process of designating who will receive your assets and handle your responsibilities after you’re gone. Though seemingly daunting, the importance of discussing estate planning with family cannot be stressed enough, and the holidays offer an ideal occasion for such a discussion. Here’s why prioritizing these conversations is crucial and how to go about it in a family setting.


The Importance of Estate Planning

Clarity and Understanding
Estate planning provides clarity for everyone involved. When a parent creates an estate plan, it delineates how assets and responsibilities will be divided and handled. Discussing this plan ensures every family member understands their role and what to expect, reducing confusion later.

Conflict Prevention
Many families face disputes over inheritance and estate division. Transparent communication during family discussions can help mitigate misunderstandings and resentment, fostering harmony and unity.

Emotional Preparedness
Estate planning conversations can prepare family members emotionally for inevitable eventualities. While discussing one’s mortality can be uncomfortable, understanding a loved one’s wishes helps in accepting and honoring those wishes when the time comes.

Legal and Financial Security
Making informed decisions about the estate ensures that legal and financial aspects are secure and in order, preventing costly legal battles or misunderstandings in the future.

Why the Holidays?

The holiday season is naturally a time for family bonding and provides a welcoming atmosphere conducive to such sensitive discussions. Families often travel long distances, making it the perfect opportunity to address critical issues face-to-face rather than over virtual communications.

Approaching the Topic

Here are some tips on how to initiate and manage these crucial family discussions:

  1. Choose the Right Moment: While the holidays offer great opportunities, the timing matters. Choose a relaxed moment after a meal or during a quiet family gathering away from the holiday buzz.
  2. Be Open and Honest: Transparency is key. Explain why the discussion is necessary and beneficial for the entire family. Encourage every member to share their thoughts or concerns. Clear communication helps keep misunderstandings at bay.
  3. Involve a Professional: If there are complicated elements within the estate plan that require explanation, consider having a legal adviser or estate planner present or available for consult. This ensures that everyone understands the technical aspects and that any questions are addressed accurately.
  4. Create a Comfortable Environment: Recognize that these discussions can be emotionally charged. Approach the topic with sensitivity and empathy, ensuring everyone feels safe expressing their emotions.
  5. Follow-Up: Preparing our loved ones for life’s eventualities typically doesn’t end with one conversation. Make sure to follow up on any actions or changes to the estate plan discussed. Family members should have an avenue to ask further questions or propose additional meetings.

The holidays present an opportune time to discuss estate planning with family, aligning the spirit of family and gratitude with preparation for the future. While the aspects of estate planning are serious, this choice to gather and converse reinforces family bonds and ensures that everyone is informed and prepared for what lies ahead.

 

The Gift of Legacy
Remember, the legacy we leave is not just in financial assets but in well-managed relationships built on trust and open communication. By taking this step, we invest in a future where familial love and gratitude extend beyond generations, deeply rooted in understanding and respect.

 

Speak With An Estate Attorney

Kent Phelps

TRAJAN ESTATE COFOUNDER AND ATTORNEY​ - As a second-generation estate planning attorney with over 25 years of experience, Kent Phelps appreciates the positive impact a customized estate plan can have on his clients and the generations that follow. Kent has been admitted to the State Bar of Arizona. He received his Bachelor’s degree from Arizona State University and his J.D. from the University of the Pacific. Additionally, he is a member of the Wealth Counsel and the Arizona State Bar Probate & Trust Section.

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